Although no family wants to think about what could go wrong in pregnancy, it is a situation that some of us have faced, and the news can hit hard like a freight train. It is something we are not prepared for. You could be going through a miscarriage, you could have been told your baby is going to die shortly after birth. You may have been told you child has genetic conditions that are not sustainable with life. You may have been told your baby no longer has a heartbeat. There are so many scenarios that can lead us to need quick immediate support that isn’t close to our due date.
Having a woman with you through this time of grief may contribute to your whole experience. It's not something that we want to acknowledge, but reaching out immediately to your support person or Doula will be a shoulder that is a rock in the time of grief. Having a Doula that knows what may happen, questions to ask and procedures that may need explaining will help you and your partner get clear communication in a time where nothing seems clear
If you are considering hiring a Doula, hiring one early could be beneficial for many reasons. (many have their own library, phone call support, will go to appointments with you etc) Here are a few questions that could be beneficial to asking on your phone call with a Doula.
How will you support me if my pregnancy were to end early?
How would you support me if this was an expected death of my baby?
How would you support me if after I have given birth or miscarried?
I have lost a baby in my previous pregnancy, how will you be here for me this time?
I want you to know that many Doulas will support you through these times. And hiring a Doula early will ensure that you have that support in place should something happen. She will be the one you call when you have received the bad news, or you discover on your own that your baby is not going to make it. Should you find yourself in this position, reach out to your doula and take a brief look at my services.