Doulas… gotta love ‘em!
How do you know what one is right for you?
I have recently noticed on some major Doula groups that there is a major difference between many of us.
There are those who will set you up for a birth that you didn’t know was possible, and there are those who will do what you ask.
Think of it as going to a hairdresser. You have hundreds to choose from! Most of the time you can tell the service you are going to receive based on the look, cleanliness and location of the salon. Some cost $10 and some cost $300. I guarantee the service will be noticeably different. Little communication about what you want, or what is possible. No extras, no coffee, no shampoo, no blowdry. You walk out hoping it’ll work out when you get home. Or You MIGHT end up with results that are satisfactory or they could end up as a a disaster taking time, work, and money to correct the mistake that was made.
Doulas are on a similar playing field. And how do you know what you are getting when you may have only seen their website or been recommended one by the OB that you see?
Here is the thing, If you want to spend $$$ ONLY for a Doula to rub your back and tell you that you are doing a great job during birth, then save your money and ask you sister to go. If you want a Doula ONLY to help protect you from your care providers then get a lawyer. If you want a Doula to be there ONLY to focus on the mother then bring her mother.
If you have a Doula that charges by the hour, you will call her too late.
If you have a Doula that is restricted by her certification, she will be held back in supporting you through medical advice that doesn’t align with your desires.
If you have a Doula that that says she will support your every choice, without question, she is leaving it up to you to find the information you might need.
If you have a Doula that offered for free by the hospital or medical team, she is going to comply with the hospital policies more than she will be willing to serve you.
All of this can actually lead to
YOU SEARCHING ENDLESSLY FOR INFORMATION THAT JUSTIFIES YOUR BELIEFS
A SINKING FEELING THAT THINGS AREN’T RIGHT
ARGUMENTS WITH YOUR PARTNER
SLEEPLESS NIGHTS WONDERING HOW YOU ARE GOING TO HANDLE LIFE WITH A BABY
POOR COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CARE PROVIDERS
STILL SCARED OF BIRTH
OR BEGINNING A LIFE THAT IS UNSASTIFACTORY, OR WORSE, RECOVERING FROM TRAUMA
The truth is, you may not even know that you are not getting everything you DESERVE.
Listen, if you want the birth that you didn’t think was possible, then you need to reach out to someone who has experienced many senarios. If you want a birth that is POWERFUL, then you need a foundation of Physiological birth. If you want to be CONFIDENT, you must recognize your fears. (and its not about birth) If you want a partner that is an active participant, AND is also rested and supported, they too need to be proficient at the birth you envision. If you want to transition focused only on your healing and baby with joy, you need to start asap, instead of after baby’s birth.
This is what I am committed to, is women and families transitioning into parenthood filled with LOVE, a SENSE OF CALM, POWER, AND ACKNOWLEDGEMENT!
Becoming a parent is one of the most transformational times in our lives! If you want to make it a journey that is enjoyable, fun and confident then I have an offer for you.
I have a program where I take up to 4 clients a month. We will develop you and your partner’s knowledge of birth. Examine your choices. Find a care provider that is right FOR YOU. Plan for a birth that YOU WANT. And dig deep into your life so that you transition into parenthood rested, supported and healing joyfully with your baby. MY POWERFUL PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM is a program that will take the both of you from nervous and worried, to powerful and peaceful!
If you are between 4 and 32 weeks pregnant and want to see if we are a perfect match, then please book a FREE DISCOVERY CALL with me! I will set aside an hour for you & your partner to discover the intention of your pregnancy and birth, look into what is and isn’t working for you and pull out some fears. It will be one of the most impactful conversations during your whole pregnancy!
I want to make the best of our time together, Do Not book call if you are not coachable, willing or a cool person (I am not a magician people!) Do not book if you don’t like the occasional curse word. And Do not book if you don’t like to laugh, I have a funny giggle and am not afraid to use it!
To book the call check out www.crowningglorydoula.ca/apply I can’t wait to see you on my calendar next week!