I am becoming discouraged.
I belong on many pregnancy groups and I am seeing so many posts on women being faced with induction for reasons that don't seem legit.
-Almost had pre-eclampsia
-water has broken
-family in town
Or maybe some birth are Augmented with medication to
-'speed up' birth
-water has broken for 24 hours
-baby won't descend
These are all reasons that are valid to accept an induction. And then we are faced with processing defeat of doing it naturally, worried about how pain intensifies, and scared for our baby's life. We start to do everything in our power to induce birthing without medication, we hike, we have sex, we eat dates, we get the membrane sweep, all to avoid the medical model of administering medication to get our babies out. We don't want to, yet we feel we have to. We feel as though we want to wait, yet all the pressure makes us think they know more than we do.
Once given any of these reasons we are fearful and willing to do anything to keep our baby safe. Do we just go along with the Doctor's orders? or do we fight the battle of judgement and go with our own voice? This is the place where all of our plans and expectations go out the window...and what we feel is right is tossed aside for the sake of our baby. And even worse, what if our intuition leads to a bad out come?
Do we ever judge what if all this induction leads to a bad outcome? No. We will forsake our bodies, our minds and our emotions, for the fear that something is wrong.
The fact is we don't actually know if something is wrong. Why? because we don't know about physiological birth... and our care providers simply don't witness or trust physiological birth. (or they are bounded by hospital procedures and policy) And it gives us a sense there is no other option. If you don't see the choice, or feel that you are being persuaded to make one choice, then you are not confident that it's the right one for you.
There are alternatives to all of this. And it involves
Trust (in your care provider and the birth YOU feel is right)
Clarity (in what is actually happening, and clear that the choice is YOURS)
Support (choosing a team that believes in the birth YOU want)
Confidence (that you know what is right for YOU and your baby)
You will birth the way YOU feel best, which will further bring more confidence and strength and allow you to transition into parenthood with ease.
With all this you may confidently choose induction, or you may make an alternative choice. And the difference is that you will KNOW it's right for you. When you see that there is a choice, and you are supported, you will ALWAYS make the right one. <3
I am becoming discouraged.